Telling the Truth

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I have found in my life that it is so much more comfortable to tell the truth than to lie to escape blame.

However, telling the truth about someone hurting me has always been difficult.  I have been challenged recently to disclose my well-founded worries about someone in church, not for my sake of safety, but for other’s.  Sometimes, keeping silent is the same as a lie. 

Think about it.  Doesn’t it feel equally bad carrying the weight of your own lie as it does to bear the burden of someone else’s lie for them?

Calling evil good.  That’s kind of what carrying around some else’s lie is.  I know in my abusive marriage, I presented a face of our family being happy and loving when it was cold and hard instead.  I told myself lies to make myself believe the lie that things were good.  It created cognitive dissonance that is finally resolving now that I am not afraid to tell the truth.

We need to speak the truth in love to ourselves and others.  Letting others tell their lies hurts us.  It is a brave and honorable thing to bring abuses out into the light. 

It is hard to learn how to break the habit of carrying lies (especially if we learned it as a survival mechanism in childhood), but learning to do this is something we can do one step at a time.

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5 thoughts on “Telling the Truth

  1. Thanks for posting this. It’s a good reminder.

    You wrote: “It is hard to learn how to break the habit of carrying lies (especially if we learned it as a survival mechanism in childhood), but learning to do this is something we can do one step at a time.”

    You’re completely right. “But the truth will set you free”, as the Bible says.
    I’ve learned the habit of lies to survive. Everytime I continue on the road of lies, I let my X continue to reign my life. Even if it’s hard to tell the truth or to face the truth or to live in the truth, it’s a victory over my X, over the shadows of my life. And it will set me free. Completely free.
    For me, this kind of thinking makes the walking on the path of truth a little bit easier.

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  2. This whole post idea sprung from asking God to show me a verse
    to put on a card that I could give someone. But when I was done making it, no one came to mind, so I put it on my refrigerator.

    Now, I think He meant for you to hear it. If you’d like me to send you the card, you can write your address to me in a comment on any post. I have it set so comments require approval, so it won’t be visible to anyone except me and I’ll never approve it. Also, it’s okay if you don’t want to share your address, I completely understand. 🙂

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