The Devilish Nature of the Abuser – He is the Accuser

Today, I was the recipient of a vicious verbal attack by a coworker who I suspected had an abusive nature.

Today’s attack included telling me to keep my mouth shut and that I know nothing and that the only reason I had the job was because he told my boss to hire me. Today was an escalated retaliation to my gentle suggestion yesterday about a more efficient way to do something and for daring to ask why something was done the way it was.

Accusers refuse to accept the possibility that they might be wrong. If you dare to reveal the little man behind the curtain, they will shoot you.

It has me thinking…these accusers attack as if their lives depend on it–it is so desperate. I wonder if deep inside they sense they are on the losing side of the only battle that has ever mattered. Our mighty God has had final victory, literally, since day one.

Tomorrow I am going to do my duty as a soldier and tell my boss what happened in a factual manner. The outcome of that conversation, no matter what happens, is victory–either my boss will respect my boundary not to work alone with the accuser or else I will lose my job…both free me from the chains of abuse and bondage that were laid on me today.

Praise You, Lord Jesus, for covering us to bring us to victory!

A Cry For Justice

Revelation 12:9-10 And the great dragon was thrown down, that ancient serpent, who is called the devil and Satan, the deceiver of the whole world–he was thrown down to the earth, and his angels were thrown down with him.  And I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying, “Now the salvation and the power and the kingdom of our God and the authority of his Christ have come, for the accuser of our brothers has been thrown down, who accuses them day and night before our God.

Deviled ham. Deviled eggs. You little devil. When we use the word “devil” in these ways, we don’t really mean that the ham or the eggs or the child is literally of the devil. In fact, when it comes to the “little devil” child, we actually mean he’s kind of cute.  “Why, you little devil!” after he has raided the last of the…

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4 thoughts on “The Devilish Nature of the Abuser – He is the Accuser

  1. UPDATE

    When my abusive coworker went out to make a delivery this morning, I told my boss what had happened as calmly as I could. I explained the very unprofessional behavior my coworker displayed to customers which led to my question and then his attack. My boss thanked me for saying something.

    Apparently, my coworker is a compulsive gambler, and my boss has had concerns about that problem affecting the business. And then he said words of Truth: you are entitled to feel safe and retain your dignity when you come here. I nearly cried tears of joy at those words and thanked him for recognizing my right to safety and dignity. God answered my prayer.

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  2. How wonderful, Ida! What a gift from God to find a boss who treated you the way human beings should be treating each other. I can relate to wanting to cry when someone treats me decently.

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  3. Way to go! You have turned a great corner, I think.

    When I read of your situation and your plans, my first thought was, I wouldn’t go talk with my supervisor in this situation. I think I’m still pretty messed up though – and used to having people yell at me – that I can’t conceive of having a “no tolerance” policy regarding it. You have made the mental and emotional shift into much healthier behavior. Congratulations!

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    • Jane D. –

      Believe me…I had a huge boost of support and encouragement from my domestic abuse group the night the incident happened. Their positive words ran through my head instead of my inner critic and that helped me so much to be brave about speaking up. Realizing that there was no real bad outcome to speaking up was also helpful. Furthermore, I am righteously angry about the prevalence of abuse in our culture. God did not create us to be punching bags for evil-minded people.

      Jane, this might be the first time I ever spoke up for myself at work. My direct bosses have always been the owners and they themselves were abusive. Like you, I am used to being yelled at, but it isn’t right. I used to think I was tough and could handle it, but it takes a huge toll on your confidence and belief in yourself.

      Jane, you deserve to be treated respectfully and to feel safe at work. Your abusive coworkers do not have the right to demean, belittle or holler at you no matter what! There are better ways to communicate about problems and they choose not to use them. It is a good thing to not accept such behavior because accepting it seems to make it escalate over time. I know it takes time to get to the point of zero tolerance, so don’t beat yourself up for that. I believe you are on the right track because you recognize the abusive behavior as such–that’s huge when receiving abuse is our normal.

      Wishing you courage and strength. Have a relaxing weekend!

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